Opus II – Take Your Emotions Seriously: Your emotions determine your behavior

Did you know that when you stay in the “present” you are, and feel, much calmer?

Your body and your mind are in balance and there is less tension within you, and around you.

To get to this state of mind and body you must let go of your future and past thoughts.

This is not to say that you do no planning for the future or learn from your past, it just means when you catch yourself feeling tense, focus on the moment and begin feeling the difference.

The goal is to stay “present” when you begin to lose your focus and your creativity.

When you are in the “present” you are in control of yourself which leads to wellness. Multi-tasking, doing many things at once does not.

After all, there is more to a day than you realize, the choice is yours.

[This addition posted on August 13, 2008] 

According to Eckhart Tolle, most people treat the present moment as if it is an obstacle that they need to overcome. “Since the present moment is Life itself, this is an insane way to live.” 

Staying present in the moment helps you be aware; and helps you accept your intuition, your emotions, feelings and thoughts. With awareness and acceptance of your intuition, emotions, feelings and thoughts you are able to manage and overcome your stress reactions; and makes your heart sing.

The value you attribute to certain emotions has an effect on your behavior and your perception ideas, people places and things. There is a tendency to miss out on something of value because of your perception of the value you attribute to your emotions,

All emotions need to be released. When emotions are not accepted and expressed verbally they have a tendency to be released physically as sleeplessness, headaches, backaches, stomach disorders, fatigue, irritability, boredom and mood-swings.

Emotions when not accepted also tend to be released as abusive behaviors such as hitting, punching, name calling etc.

To express an emotion means that you tell the individual what he/she has done (or not done) makes you feel.

Statements such as “When you_________, I feel_________ is made not to manipulate the person to do things your way rather it is made for you to release your feelings and your emotions.

All emotions are OK.

It is what you do with them that counts.

How are letting go of your emotions and your feelings without talking about them?

How do you let go of your emotions and your feelings?

Letting go of your emotions and your feelings changes your behavior.

[This addition posted on April 23, 2009]

And, changes in your behavior may cause feelings of being overwhelmed with your life. 

Here are ways to take your emotions seriously without feeling overwhelmed.
 
Be mindful of how you manage and use your emotions. 

When your emotions are managed and used mindfully you are able to lead a more productive life. 
 
Since a life with greater effectiveness and productivity needs energy, when emotions are used mindfully and managed effectively, you are able to use and release your energy to extend your personal limits, and accept change as an opportunity.
 
Accept change as an opportunity, and discover the benefits of the stress of taking your emotions seriously can become the driving force that helps you reach your goals.

Remember, avoiding stress is not necessarily healthier than seeking it out.  The time to be concerned about your stress level is when you feel that your effectiveness or your health is at risk.
 
To avoid risking your effectiveness and your health, find your optimum level of stress, where there is just enough to avoid complacency, and not too much to cause burnout, headaches, stomach upsets, personality changes, restlessness, sleeplessness, fatigue, weight loss or gain.

[This addition posted on December 28, 2009]

Mindfulness, being present in the moment as a viable approach to avoid distress is taught in many stress management programs.

Full awareness of any emotional feeling without thought requires presence in the moment to realize that there is an emotional feeling.

When you choose to take your attention away from thinking and stay in the present moment you begin to notice that you may be spending your time worrying about the future or dwelling in the past.

By bringing your full awareness without thought  into the present moment sensing the essence of the present moment — life itself and not the external manifestation of  your life –  people, surroundings, radio, television, — no matter what life or the essence of your life brings you — anger, fear, sadness — what ever you are emotionally feeling makes the emotional feeling dissipate.

By being present in the moment you gain power, have more power, less stress and get more from your life knowing what is important in your life and spending your time and your energy there.
 
To know what is important in your life needs making a distinction between importance and urgency.  Importance is something you place a value on, and urgency is something you or someone tells you to do right away.
 
Bottom line, while you are busy with urgent deadlines you may be missing something more important in your life.
 
Are you aware of and do you accept what are you missing in your life?

Do you know what’s missing in your life?

Explore mindfulness in your life and feel the power of being present in the moment.

The choice is yours.

[This addition posted on September 02, 2010]

The longer I am on the Internet, the more I read and see a movement towards  ”taking your emotions seriously” on Blogs, Facebook, Twitter, etc.  as they acclaim and proclaim the need for authenticity and transparency in your business and your personal life.

To move past your business competitors. marketing/selling  now requires an authentic approach that is transparently believable.

On the personal level, there has been a tremendous movement toward acceptance of feelings as a way to let others know who you are; and what you need and want.

Since our emotions direct our behavior, clearly it is a matter of  choice as to what emotions you want to share and how you want to share them.

Being mindful and present in the moment is a way to make an impact on business and personal relationships. 

Once again, the choice is yours!
{Remember to be kind ♥}

[This addition posted on May 06, 2011]

Here are some how-to take your emotions seriously since your emotions determine your behavior, and lessons learned for your consideration.

• Act with meaning and purpose to get the results you want by making some body happy without hurting yourself or others.
• Choose how you respond to what happens to you.
• In every moment of every day you are able to create the life you want.  
• Search your heart and mind every day to find and challenge your limiting beliefs.
• Since your disposition and not your circumstances gets you what you want; your behavior must have meaning and purpose to get the results you want.
• Stay in the now, plan for the future and take purpose full and meaning full action.
• What you believe determines the outcome of all of your experiences.  
• What if every day you make some body happy?
• When there is enthusiasm in your life greatness is achieved.
• You are able to choose how you respond to what happens to you.

[This addition posted on December 29, 2011]

We’ve all heard that motivation is the key to living – being motivated, and staying motivated.

So, where does your motivation come from? 

If, and when you give up, how can you expect your business, and personal relationships to survive?   How can your clients, your customers, your family, and your friends believe in you?

Your motivation comes from within; you build on your errors,  your failures, your strengths, and your weaknesses.   You never give up!   You continue looking for what is impotant in your life.   You continue searching for the meaning of your life.

By taking your emotions seriously – not acting on them – you begin finding the answers, and the motivation to keep going.

                        [You can read more on Motivation in Opus VII]

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