Opus 1 – Getting A Handle On Your Stress: Take control of your life
“The harder the stress of life the sweeter the song.“
~ Source Unknown ~
Being stress-free is not an option to living your life because you need stress to live; and to be creative in giving, and receiving what you are here to give, and receive.
You have a purpose, a reason for being here.
Do you know your purpose for being here?
Do not wait another day to find your purpose because without knowing your purpose, your life may appear to be meaningless, and without the passion needed to live in each precious moment.
Business, and personal stress must not be avoided because you need stress to be creative, and to feel alive. Only when stress becomes distress (negative stress) or eustress (positive stress) you must learn to manage, and overcome your stress reactions.
Stress reactions are your body signals telling you what you must change believing, doing, eating, feeling, etc. to change the signals your body is sending.
Managing, and overcoming distress, and eustress involves being aware, acknowledging, and accepting what your body is telling you because if, and when you ignore your body signals you face discomfort, disease, illness or worse.
[July 15, 2008]
Did you know that your stress, distress, and eustress is your choice?
That’s right – you choose the cause of your stress, distress, and eustress by the choices you make with the following stressors:
Breathing, Environment, Attitude, and Nutrition. [B E A N]
Check your breathing to see when it is jammed, natural, reversed or shallow.
Holding your breath until after you have completed an activity (talking, walking, etc.) creates a physical response, a stress reaction.
What is your physical response, your stress reaction?
For natural normal breathing, your chest, and belly expands when you breathe in, and deflates when you breathe out.
[Caution: Go slow. Attempting to fix your breathing style by taking in more oxygen than your body knows may cause hyperventilation. If this occurs, cup your hands lightly over your mouth rather than look for a paper bag, and breathe in, and out slowly. You can do this while sitting or standing, preferably sitting.]
Are you able to follow your breath as it moves through your body?
Living, shopping, and working in sick-buildings, and under fluorescent lights create stress reactions.
What allergens do you live with every day?
Blaming others for your situation makes you the victim, and this creates stress reactions.
Being positive rather than negative, and using questions that begin with what, and how rather than who, when, and why helps you take control of your life. When you feel like crying, cry. Crying is one way your body releases your stress reactions.
Drinking caffeine creates stress reactions.
Eating three meals, and two snacks a day works wonders.
Eating white products — sugar, white flour, white rice — creates stress reactions.
Fresh fruit, and vegetables help reduce your stress reactions.
What about nitrates, and preservatives? Are they in the foods you eat?
Bottom line: There are no “stress management pills” that help you take control of your life, so go ahead, and share your feelings, don’t act on them. Instead, discover that your stress matters, and how to live with less of your stress reactions.
Yes, you are able to live with less stress reactions each, and every day; the choice is yours. Discover your choices; do it now.
Your body is telling you what choices to make.
[March 26, 2009]
Stress is your body’s biochemical reaction to how you live your life. Stress can develop into distress or eustress, and disease, through your personal adaptation to external, and internal environments. When your energy production is higher than your body can discharge, distress or eustress occurs. This can result in feelings such as loss of control, being overwhelmed, stuck, and/or agitated. Each person reacts differently to the different stressors (causes). It is important for you to know what causes your distress or eustress, and recognize the stress indicators (symptoms), and the signal they give.
Some signs, and symptoms of stress (distress or eustress) are tension, and physical illness; low energy, and fatigue; irritability; insomnia; headaches; and backaches. According to Hans Selye, M.D. “Stress is not something to be avoided.” It is a “response of the body to any demand made upon it.”
Since stress is a body response, we only know that we are stressed, or more correctly in distress or eustress, when our body tells us, that is, when we feel symptoms known as stress indicators. It appears that stress is good.
It is when you feel distress or eustress that you need to take another look at your lifestyle, and the choices, and decisions you are making.
[November 27, 2009]
Help in becoming aware of your body, and locating both physical, and emotional feelings can be very constructive. Making contact with yourself generates enthusiasm about your goals, fosters an appreciation, and acceptance of yourself, and makes your actions more diversified.
Bioenergetic Analysis, a body-oriented approach to stress management, teaches you to stay in touch with your body for messages, and cues in order to make decisions that are conducive to good physical, and emotional health. It is important that you become aware, and accept what you are feeling rather than deny what you are feeling.
Eustress, the opposite of distress, is stress that is somewhat beneficial – but not too much; since your body cannot differentiate what stressors cause distress, and what stressors cause eustress. In both cases your adrenal glands secrete adrenaline. According to Dr. Selye, too much adrenaline in your body is worse than intoxication. You must manage the stress that your attitudes, nutrition, environment and breathing present you, and to the people you love. It is essential for you to review your lifestyle, and goals.
[August 1, 2010]
You must discover alternatives to stressors, such as resentment, caffeine, fluorescent lights, and holding your breath. You must choose alternatives, and support your choice. One way to know that you are making the right choice is to listen to your body signals. Identification, and management of stress indicators and stressors through body, and emotional/feeling awareness, acceptance, and choice encourages you, and helps you take responsibility for your physical, and emotional health, and well-being.
The process of managing stress is idiosyncratic, for each one of us has our own unique way of internalizing stressors. You respond to life as a result of the learning you acquired during a very dependent part of your life. Attitudes, beliefs and values that move your behavior are learned during this period of time. As an adult, you now have the power to create your own environment; but first you must become aware of the “old issues”, attitudes, beliefs, and values, especially those behaviors that are not workable nor effective for you at this stage of your life. There are alternatives to becoming ill or dependent on alcohol, and drugs. Decisions that change your behavior can be accomplished with attitude, and body-work, such as Bioenergetic Analysis.
Bioenergetically, each one of us reacts differently to stress, because stress as an energetic condition is related to our character structure. Our character structure is our way of surviving, and must be accepted as such. The following reaction patterns to stress have been identified, and defined by Alexander Lowen, M.D., the founder, and prime mover of Bioenergetic Analysis. The schizoid character structure under stress feels fragmented, and spacy; the oral character structure feels needy, dependent, and physically-emotionally collapses; the masochist character structure whines, complains, feels stuck, and trapped; the psychopathic character structure denies that he/she is stressed; the rigid character structure becomes hysterical, and aggressive.
[April 8, 2011]
Are you open, and receptive to seeing the good in all of your experiences?
Indeed, this is not as easy as this sounds; yet when you are open, and receptive to seeing the good in all of your experiences, your experiences turn in a positive direction. Having gone through many death-defying, and difficult situations, being open, and receptive to looking for, and seeing the good in them have turned them into “lessons learned”‘ experiences and make for a more confident and stronger life. Living with stress by taking control of your life makes for a creative life that resonates from your head, and your heart.
Being open and receptive to what is good in your life requires a level of safety that is not only necessary, and needed; your life requires you to be able to respond to any, and all emotions, and thoughts without acting on them.
Sharing your emotions, and thoughts is one way to move from isolation — that tends to feel negative — to community that is filled with shared feelings, and thoughts — that tends to feel good!
How about sharing your emotions, and your thoughts here to begin seeing the good in all of your experiences???
[November 29, 2011]
Being present in the moment is an excellent way of “getting a handle on your stress.”
Here are a few thoughts on what being in the present moment does for you.
- Calms your body, and quiets your mind!
- Helps you relax, and find the confidence within!
- Is empowering when you accept what you are experiencing!
- Makes a difference in your life!
- Strengthens your relationships!
- Takes you through difficult moments
[August 2, 2012]
Benefits of Stress
Since stress is energy, and needed to live when used wisely, and managed effectively, stress releases energy, and extends your personal limits.
Avoiding stress is not necessarily healthier than seeking it out.
Stress can be the driving force that helps you reach your goals.
The time to be concerned about your stress level is when you feel that your effectiveness or your health is at risk.
Find your optimum level of stress, where there is just enough to avoid complacency, and not too much to cause burnout, headaches, stomach upsets, personality changes, restlessness, sleeplessness, and chronic
Stress affects individuals differently. In any situation, knowing your own signals, and recognizing your own signs of excess stress are important.
Common stress indicators include headaches, stomach upsets, fatigue, weight loss or gain.
See change as an opportunity, and discover the benefits of your stress.
[April 5, 2013]
Making Stress Work
The importance, and necessity to consciously become aware of, know. and practice the following can be accomplished by reading this information often — once a day when possible.
1. Stress can lead to productive living and greater effectiveness when used wisely.
2. How you use and manage stress can be helpful. Stress Tracker
3. Stress releases your energy and extends your personal limits.
4. Stress is your body’s response to any situation.
5. Avoiding stress is not necessarily healthier than seeking it out.
6. Stress can be the driving force that helps you reach your goals.
7. Find your optimum level of stress, where there is just enough to avoid complacency, and not too much to cause burnout, headaches, stomach upsets, personality changes, restlessness, sleeplessness, and chronic tiredness.
8. The time to be concerned about your stress level is when you feel that your effectiveness or your health is at risk.
9. In any situation, knowing your own signals and recognizing your own signs of excess stress is crucial. Common stress indicators (symptoms) include headaches, stomach upsets, fatigue, weight loss or gain.
10. Stress affects individuals differently. See change as an opportunity and a challenge.
11. Clarify your goals and values. Define your goals. Spend time and energy to reach them.
12. Make firm commitments. Your commitments are your decisions.
13. Affirm your faith and beliefs. Choose the faith and beliefs that will help you live within your limitations.
14. Surrender to the flow of life. Live in the here and now. Do not replay everything over and over until you are worn out.
15. Take active control of your time. Take a look at your time spending habits. Get to the heart of what needs to be done.
16. Focus on your goals. Pay attention to (do not focus on) the activities.
17. Plan your activities carefully. The means do justify the ends (i.e. your goals).
18. Improve your people skills.
19. Help yourself and others become more creative.
20. Help yourself and others adjust to change.
21. Improve your communication skills.
22. Foster team spirit.
23. Let go of the past.
24. Do not let fear dictate your not getting what you want, in other words, do not act on your fear.
25. When you want something you have never had, be ready to do something you have never done.
26. Trust yourself.
27. Make sure you are prepared, setup and ready.
28. You do not have to live with fear and pessimism, with feeling defeated and discouraged. Look at the bottle half full rather than half empty.
29. Look into the possibility of getting a personal stress management coach.
[This information is intended for your knowledge only. You must seek prompt attention for any specific condition and/or situation]